When it comes to fixing a broken relationship or getting an ex lover back, one must ask themselves, how much effort am i willing to give to put the pieces back together again. If you find yourself asking this question over and over there might be nothing you can do. Why? because building a stronger relationship shouldn’t be viewed upon as Work or a lot of Effort.

I know most people and a lot of relationship experts say that relationships take a great amount of effort, and most of them do, but you need to remind yourself of a time when the relationship was new and how you felt about the new overwhelming feeling of love, and ask how much effort did it take?, the answer is none at all.

If it required a lot of effort to fall in love, how many of us would really go out looking to find it? the answer is, no one would. Here’s a list for the first 7 synonyms listed for the word effort from a comprehensive thesaurus. exertion, energy, struggle, power, work, labor, force. This is really not my idea of falling in love.

Here are 7 emotions i felt once falling in love for the first time. Passion, desire, excitement, exhilaration, enjoyment, elation, pleasure. These feelings don’t require any effort, and if your no longer feeling these emotions when looking in your lovers eyes it might be to late to bring back the flame that once was.

If you find that the once strong burning passion has died down, but you still have a spark left, then it’s not to late to rekindle that passion. I have a little exercise i would like to share. Here ya go – (answer with as much honesty as possible). When you think about your lover, what are the first 5 words to come to mind?, take a minute and write down the first words that come to mind when you ask yourself this question. OK, put all the words into two groups, one, good emotions, and two, bad emotions.

If you have more words in the bad group then the good group, then i would take a serious look at why you are still in the relationship. It’s really hard to work at feeling differently and your fire might have fizzled out, however, if you still have many good things to say about your partner, and you can see that it just may be your life that’s getting in the way of love and happiness, you actually have a great chance of reigniting the love.

If your feeling the relationship is worth saving but your not sure your ex lover feels the same way,. then you can’t do this alone. You need help setting your feeling’s aside so you can make a plan to get your partner back, a plan that is guaranteed to work.